Just south of Milford, NE, at the top of my favorite kind of prairie ridge created by the West Blue River valley, sits a tiny white church with one little elegant steeple at the front doors and a small but beautifully maintained cemetery fenced just behind the building. West Blue U.C.C. Church has deep roots in the Welsch family as it is where Ben’s great, great, great grandfather, JP Welsch, was the first permanent pastor roughly 150 years ago. JP and his wife, Anna, are buried there along with many other Welsch descendants, including Ben’s own grandparents, Eugene and Louise, who used to live just up the road from the church while Ben’s parents live just down the hill from the church.
The church itself hasn’t been open in some time now for regular Sunday services, but for the last (almost) 50 years it has continued a tradition of hosting a Memorial Day Service in which families, friends, and neighbors can gather together for worship and, of course, a good old Midwestern Potluck in the church basement following service.
Since having kids, Ben and I haven’t made it back to as many of the Memorial Day Services as we did BC, but it’s a tradition I enjoy and actually one that gave me one of my fondest memories of Eugene. I can’t remember if it was pre-wedding or post, but in the early years of our relationship/marriage, Ben and I went to one of these services and the Welsch fam turned out in spades. All of Eugene and Louise’s four children were there as well as many of their partners and their children (and partners), meaning that we filled at least two if not two+ pews in the small church. Part of the agenda at each of these services is passing the microphone around those gathered so they can introduce themselves and share their connection to West Blue. For the old familiars, this is already known information, but every year there seems to be someone new or someone who hasn’t been there in some time. Often one person from a family will stand, be it the patriarch of the family or whoever is most comfortable speaking in front of a crowd.
That particular year that we were all there, Eugene stood, took the microphone, and then proceeded to introduce every single one of us down the pews without a single hiccup or error which set us all a-buzz with pleasure. Anyone who has ever been part of a family knows how dang hard it is to say the right name with the right face, much less when you are introducing outliers like myself who hadn’t been a part of the family for very long at that point. I don’t think any of us thought we could have pulled it off better than Gene, in his mid-70s at that time, did that morning!
A handful of years later, West Blue on a Memorial Sunday was the site of one of my maternity shoots (Ben’s cousin took some of my favorite pictures ever there when I was expecting the babe who turned out to be LT), but we hadn’t been back for ages for a Memorial Weekend, to the point that we realized, our kids did not remember this family tradition at all.
We course corrected that this past weekend by putting it on our calendar, and the Welschies got to experience the whole shebang, from the hymn numbers posted on the wall to being mesmerized by the organ that sits right up front (RL wants to add it to her ever-growing list of instruments she wants to play) to listening to all of the introductions and West Blue stories (“why is this taking so long?” asked one of them halfway through the exercise. “because this is kind of the main point!” I responded). Then it was downstairs for food (just as our clan of 7 fills a whole pew, we also filled up almost a whole entire table in the basement) and back out to the cemetery one more time to look at the graves and headstones.
We also managed to snag a few pictures with the kids on the steps of the church (where we considered getting married back in the day before settling on my own U.C.C. church in SoDak instead), in hopes of documenting what can once again become a more established tradition for us, so our kids know more of how our family came to be and how we came to be from this land.